Sunday, March 3, 2019

Home Birth Story of Lilith Faye

My first, also born at home, had decided to bless us with her presence a bit early, at 38+6. Since I had expected to be pregnant until at least 41 weeks, I was so glad to know that I have my babies early!

...well, apparently not. 

This time around I was fully prepped and prepared to birth at home at 37 weeks. At 38 weeks I knew I'd have a baby ... and when 39 weeks crept by, I was a very unhappy camper. Then I reached my estimated delivery date. Each day felt like a week until I finally went into labor with my second at 40+5. This is not "late" at all, mind you, I was just so certain my babies come early. 

How I felt somewhere around my EDD.

Crawling into bed at 9pm on a Monday night, I did an inversion (to stretch my tight round ligaments) before settling into my pillow-nest. While attempting to get comfortable, I was rocked by an intense sensation of cramping and tightening throughout my entire stomach and back - its suddenness took my breath away. I made the Herculean effort to "quickly" move my body out of the bed and into the bathroom (my first-born was sleeping peacefully in the room).

Weeks of prodromal labor, with contractions strong enough to wake me at night, had conditioned me to tell myself I'd be heading back to bed in no time. But, only about 5 minutes later, I had another intense wave of tightening. 

I texted my husband (I had kicked him out of our bed months ago when my nightly whale-turns were getting too disruptive), telling him to come join me in the bathroom. I had begun timing the sensations and they were about 5-7 minutes apart, lasting about 40-45 seconds, and they were strong!

Of course labor would start at bed time...

After 3 of the same sensations in a row, I started to tell myself I might be in labor. Each contraction was much stronger than I remember them being with my first. 

I had taken a Hypnobabies class during this pregnancy and started playing the 'Easy First Stage' Track. I remember feeling annoyed each time she said 'the pressure waves may feel like a tight hug' - these ones sure-as-shit didn't feel like a tight hug ... time to change the track :-) 
My cue word "Peace" was very helpful!

Feeling cold...
I was fully immersed in labor-land and only came back into the room when I needed to communicate. Some of the surges would wrap around into my back and I'd feel nauseatingly hot... then the next one would only be in the front of my belly and I'd be cold again - blanket on, blanket off, over and over.

Back to hot!

After a couple hours, my pressure waves were about 1 minute long and 4-5 minutes apart. We decided to call my mom, who would be there to help with my daughter. She arrived a little after midnight (I think she may have broke some speeding records that night...) and we had her move my daughter to the basement so that I could labor in my bedroom.
Yeah, she didn't stay asleep...

Her "all-nighter" capabilities will pay off ... some day ... 

Right around this time, we called our amazing midwife, Jessica Nipp of Holistic Home Birth. Labor had felt really intense the whole time, and I was ready for some more support. Contractions were somewhere around 3-4 minutes apart and lasting at least 1 minute. They were a bit erratic, though, sometimes taking a minute or two longer to start.

After the midwife moved in (kidding, but they do bring suitcases full of equipment!), I mentioned thinking I wasn't really far along because I was having back labor too and so maybe the baby was malpositioned a bit. Jessica disagreed with me and offered to check how dilated I was. After some consideration - for fear that I'd only be 3 or 4cm - I crawled onto my back and relaxed using my Hypnobabies "Peace" Cue.


Jessica recommended a hot bath and I will never forget how much relief the water gave me. I could feel the tension slip away into the hot water and I felt a renewed sense of strength and optimism that I could keep going. 

Ice-cold rags on my face and neck were AMAZING too! I remember feeling surprised by how much relief I felt, that cold sensation really helped me let go of each contraction and relax in between them.

I started pushing in the tub, but was struggling to feel any progress. The amniotic sac hadn't broken yet, and actually started to bulge, which felt very distracting and I asked for it to be broken. After some attempts to push in the tub, my midwife suggested I try pushing somewhere else and I decided I wanted to lie in bed.

Pushing triggers some deep fears in me and I knew I'd struggle like I did with my first. My midwife was prepared to support me in any way I needed, and in the end, I felt most successful and controlled when she did some directed pushing. It isn't very common (or recommended) that pushing is directed, but I'm here to tell you that you can use whatever you need to when you are giving birth - but be sure it's what YOU need. 

Pushing took F.O.R.E.V.E.R, but I could feel the slow progress and knew I'd get there. During crowning, I felt completely in control of her movement and I was able to breathe her out - no tearing!

Love how radiant my mom and daughter are :-) 

Such relief to have her laid on my stomach! I was done!! 

I began losing a rather concerning amount of blood. We did a shot of pitocin and I had to endure some very painful abdominal "massage" and removal of some clots. A quite unpleasant experience.

First latch <3 nbsp="" td="">
My mom, being amazing as she is, made breakfast for the whole birth team and I guzzled ice cold grape juice. I've never tasted anything more amazing. 

Lilith Faye, 6lbs 12oz, 20.5in - 5:49am
After an incredible shower, my team helped me into my postpartum diaper, and as the sun came up, our whole house settled in for a nice long nap. 

I am beyond grateful that my husband, mom, and daughter were all present to support me and witness my incredible strength as I brought our second little girl earth-side. My daughter now believes birth is the most normal act in the world, and that she is fully capable of doing it - without fear. 
What an incredible gift to bestow upon her. 

I had two safe and peaceful births, both at home, and I hope sharing my stories will empower more mothers to speak out for their needs during pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. 

Be sure your care providers support YOU! You have the most important job in the world, be sure those you choose to support you, treat you like it. 

My first was also born at home, you can read her story here.

Blessed Be,

Monday, November 6, 2017

Preparing for Your Postpartum Recovery

Let's talk about Postpartum care and what YOU need to have a better recovery!

As a Doula, I knew that I needed some very important items to help me heal after childbirth, but my experience preparing mothers for this important transition period has shown me that postpartum healing for mothers is an overly neglected area.

Too often, the focus is on what a baby needs when it's born, but truly, besides a few things like diapers and onesies, all the baby needs is it's Mother! So the true focus should be on what the MOTHER needs!

So, what are some things you MUST have for healing postpartum?

  • ADULT DIAPERS - I can't tell you how much nicer these are than huge underwear with pads! As one mom said, "Who wants to sit on a brick after childbirth!?" Adult diapers are comfortable and give you full coverage, because, yes, you will be leaking a lot of fluids after birth! 
    • Making "Padsicles" You can put some witch hazel in the 'pad' part of the diaper and freeze them. You can also get some thinner pads, wet them with witch hazel, freeze, and then stick them into the diaper. 
      • Note: depending on the amount of discomfort you have, try to only use cold in the first few days. Heat actually helps heal faster, so alternating between cold and heat (sitz baths) is better than *only* using cold. See below for Sitz baths! 
    • Hospital birth? Be sure to ask for a pack (or two) of these to take home! 
    • Cesarean surgery? You will still leak fluids and need to use something like a diaper or pad. 
  • PERI-BOTTLE - This helps you pee with less pain. You gently squirt the water as you pee. You should also use every opportunity to pee in the shower or bathtub (Sitz baths!) as it feels much better. 
    • You can fill this bottle with "sitz bath" mixture (see below). 
    • Hospital Birth? Ask for one of these to take home!
  • TUCKS PADS - These are a brand of small, round, pads that have witch hazel and are flushable (this is a nice feature since you will sit on the toilet and it will fall in). They are great for healing hemorrhoids and other trauma to the anus/perineum. You can also just use witch hazel on your own pads/cloth, but it's hard to remember to remove it before you sit on the toilet!
    • Place some in the fridge or freezer for some cool relief!
  • EPSOM SALTS - These are for your Sitz Baths. You can purchase a small insert for the toilet that is a technical "sitz bath", but I preferred to just use my own bathtub. There are numerous products you can buy, or, herbal recipes for making your own Sitz Bath mixture. 
    • Sitz Bath water should be like a hot tub, as hot as you can enjoy without scalding yourself. The heat brings blood flow to the area and this helps speed healing. 
    • If you can't afford all the Sitz Bath products, or, the herbs to make your own. Then using Epsom Salts is enough. 
    • An herbal mixture is a GREAT GIFT someone can buy you for your baby shower! 
  • FLUSHABLE WET WIPES - There's a few different bodily fluids you'll have to wipe off yourself. The wet wipes make this process less daunting and more comfortable. Flushable just makes it nicer to wipe and drop in the toilet! 
    • Note: Most flushable wipes I've seen say to only flush one or two at a time, keep this in mind and give an extra flush if you need to :-) 
  • MAGNESIUM - It's likely that we are all deficient in magnesium, and this is one reason I use it instead of another "stool softener" product. This stuff works like magic, I've used it in pregnancy to help get a crampy poo out quickly and on my toddler when she needs a poo-boost! 
    • Follow the instructions! Too much will make your poo too loose and that's no fun, either! 
    • This works quickly on my family, so don't take it 30 minutes before a road trip, do it the night before ;-) 
  • SUPPORT - This comes in all shapes and forms, ask people to do what they are best at and what comes easily to them. 
    • Physical - Most people want a task to complete that helps them feel good about helping you. Make a list of things people can help with and the important info for how to complete that task (like where the dog food is). If a friend stops by, have them fill your water bottle, grab you a snack (or bring a meal with them!), and help you with any other things you've been thinking of while you sit under your baby. 
    • Emotional - choose a friend or family member (or a couple of them!) who's really good at lifting you up and ask them to send you messages, give you a call, and be responsible for lifting your spirits here and there. This is super important! You WILL feel exhausted, defeated, uncertain... this person is there to remind you what a good job you are doing and get you to laugh. 
    • Peer - This will be one of the hardest things for some of you, but find a group and go to a meeting! Getting out of the house is hard, but connecting with other mothers/parents is incredible and will help you feel less alone. Look for a local Family Resource Center, Library group, La Leche League, church group, etc...
Additional items to have on hand: 
  • Water bottle(s) - you'll need lots of water to recover from childbirth, pregnancy, and for breastfeeding! Make it a big water bottle so that you don't have to get up to refill it.
  • Healthy snacks - simple things that you can grab/prepare quickly. A few dry snacks in a basket at your "nest"(see below, this is the place you will most often veg-out with your newborn), is great too. I like having Luna bars next to the bed and at my "Nest", which is the Lazy-boy in front of the TV!
  • Frozen/already prepared meals - make a few and freeze them before the birth, also, ask friends/family to bring a meal to freeze for you too! 
  • Lavender oil for calming and helping you rest. I set up an oil diffuser next to my nest and one in the bedroom. Lavender oil is very safe, be careful with other oils if you aren't experienced.
  • Face cleansing wipes. A quick wipe down can help you feel clean and refreshed when you don't get to shower every day! 
  • Stretchy wrap or ring-sling for baby-wearing. Baby-wearing has been shown to reduce crying (for baby AND mom!), reduce spit-up and gastrointestinal issues for baby, increase breastfeeding success and breastmilk supply ... skin to skin is amazing for baby, mom, dad, basically anyone who does it! Babywearing is also a great way to hold baby close for short walks outside - going outside is great for healing! Try to get out for at least 10 minutes a day. 
  • Pillows - you likely already have a bunch from being pregnant, make sure you've got easy access to a few extra in the bedroom and at your nest! 
    My home-made belly binding wrap!
  • Belly Binding Wrap - this can be an actual wrap (I made my own by tie-dying a plain bekung belly binding wrap I bought from Etsy), or a velcro one from a baby store/amazon. Be sure to read the instructions and learn how to use properly! You need to pull your "insides" upwards from the bottom of your pelvis towards your ribs, to help prevent uterine prolapse... pushing downward towards your vagina can risk your uterus being pushed into/through the vagina. This is rare, but make sure you read about how to use whatever you decide to use. 
  • Something to watch! Netflix, movies, save a few of your favorites for cuddling with the baby and relaxing to an entire 7 seasons of your favorite show. 
  • Electric heating pad - You will have lots of aches as your body recovers, as you hold your baby all the time, and as you breastfeed. I placed my heating pad on the back of the lazy boy and would click it on whenever I sat down. The heat on my back was so nice - I had lots of tension and soreness from laboring on my hands and knees for 12 hours and then nursing for 31.5 hours a day. 
Recommended by others on my Facebook page:
  • Grape juice came highly recommended by a few moms! 
    • OJ is rough on your stomach and apple juice isn't as flavorful. 
  • One mother recommended: "Young living Claraderm spray, you spray it on your nether regions, it's a major soother and healer! Seriously magic stuff... it is expensive but 1000000000% worth it"

Preparing your "Nests" for postpartum recovery:
*This will look a bit different for everyone. For some, you may only have one nest, in the bedroom. For others, you may have a couple areas in the house that you want to prepare as a nest. 
  • Bathroom - place all your bathroom supplies in the bathroom you care most likely to use. Your adult diapers, Tuck's pads, flushable wipes, peribottle, and Sitz bath materials should all be in one, easy-to-reach place in your bathroom. I had a little basket with all my supplies right next to the toilet. 
  • Bedroom - Keep a couple dry snacks (granola bars, crackers, etc) by the bed in case you get the munchies and don't want to get up. It's also good to have a water bottle, extra pillows, and an oil diffuser with some lavender oil set up. Make everything as easy for yourself as possible - if you might forget it in one place, then have one in each place! One water bottle in the bedroom and one at your "nest"!
  • Living/TV room - This was my biggest nest as I spent a lot of time sitting in the lazy boy, nursing, and watching Netflix with my newborn. I had a water bottle, dry snacks, pillows, TV remotes, oil diffuser with my favorite oils, a few washcloths/rags for spit up/spills, heating pad, and a book. I also left my laptop plugged in here sometimes too. 
  • Kitchen - Throughout pregnancy and postpartum, I had all my herbs, prenatals, and supplements in a little area. I had Nettles for nettle tea (great for Iron), Raspberry tea for uterine health, Magnesium supplement (see above), and prenatal vitamins. *I added a few things here that I didn't list elsewhere, there will be more blog posts on the herbal teas coming soon!

Remember, babies have a "Fourth Trimester". Here's a great article to learn more about what to expect during this 3 month period: Why Your Baby is Only Happy in Your Arms

What other items would you recommend!? Let us know in the comments below!

Happy Birthing!
~Randi McCallian, MPH, IBCLC, CD(DONA)

Saturday, November 7, 2015

Breastfeeding is a Commitment Worthy of Being Paid For!

Recommendations are to "breastfeed exclusively for the first 6 months" and I have probably repeated this statement over a thousand times - always with the intention of informing women, mothers. 

But today, the day I reach this goal, I now understand the enormity of this statement. The unfathomable weight I have placed on women's shoulders when I so confidently uttered it. 

I'm sorry for my previous naivete! 

Because exclusive breastfeeding for 6 months isn't easy to do and I think for most women in the U.S., it is NEAR IMPOSSIBLE.

Let me explain...

I had it 'easy' compared to many moms when it comes to trying to exclusively breastfeed for 6 whole months. Not only am I well versed in the mechanics of breastfeeding (I've been in the field for almost 8 years), but more importantly, I work from home.

I am beyond thankful that I have been able to spend every day of this past 6 months with my precious bundle of perpetual energy and, for the last two months, my husband has been able to be home with us.

...and exclusively breastfeeding my baby was still a challenge!

Breastfeeding is a skill that takes time to learn. Some moms have a rough go of it, in my case, where the only issues we faced seemed minor (thrush, nipple pain), there were still many many times when I felt overwhelmed by the commitment of it.

Breastfeeding while working full-time started to make it feel like a chore, which broke my heart. My baby deserved my attention, a time-out from the world for connection between the two of us, but so often work related topics clouded my time with her.

Trying to juggle work tasks and full-time breastfeeding was exhausting!

Babies eat often, oh so often!, round the clock. Taking 10-30 minutes every two or three hours to feed them is challenging for anyone... especially when you have a thousand other pressing things to do.

Not to mention that even when you aren't actively feeding your baby... you are thinking about feeding them. It was a struggle to slowly learn how to focus on things other than my baby. My body is hard-wired to need her near me all the time, so focusing on working was sometimes impossible. 

Working and mothering :-) Multi-tasking level: expert!
... and I can't even imagine trying to do this if you work out of the home! To me, that seems a near-impossible task.

It's worth it, don't get me wrong. I have always known I'd breastfeed my babies, rain or shine and I have loved far more of this journey than I've wished away... and even those moments I wish away, I remember to be thankful for them later!

But I'm lucky... I got to stay home with my baby...

A mother working out of the home, well she has to pump, and pump, and pump, and pump.... when she should just be able to feed her baby, to respond to her baby when he needs her, and to adapt to this new human and her role as a mother. 

But this isn't possible when over HALF of American mothers return to work when their baby is only 5 weeks old. (link)


It really isn't surprising, then, that most women don't reach their own breastfeeding goals, I couldn't even tell my right from left when my baby was 5 weeks old... and we are expecting mothers to LEAVE THEIR BABY to return to work full time!?

Oh yeah, and keep giving that breastmilk... pump, pump, pump!

Just another thing for an exhausted and stressed mother to do... and it comes at a cost. 

A cost to our mental health, to the health of our families and children - and in the end, our nation will suffer for it.

No amount of free pumps, or workplace time for pumping, or home visits from IBCLCs (all things we certainly DO need more of!) is going to get all women to this goal. 

Support means letting mothers and fathers spend time with their newborn babies. Letting them navigate the new (non)sleeping schedules and the world of rapidly, ever-changing babies from home; together.

So here's the thing... we need to stop placing this expectation, this lofty lofty goal, squarely on the shoulders of mothers, because it isn't them we need to convince. 

It isn't mothers who need to work harder, is EVERYONE ELSE!

Politicians, employers, educators, doctors, nurses, researchers, and aunts and uncles, fathers and grandparents... ALL OF US!

Breastfeeding takes work and sometimes a lot of it. It is a commitment worthy of being paid for. It deserves respect as one of the most certain ways to improve our nation's health, but also as something that isn't just a stroll in the park. 

If we care about children, if we want healthier babies and healthier families, and if we ultimately want to improve the health and well-being of our country, then PAID parental LEAVE is a MUST. 

Nursing at Denver Airport!
Plain and simple.

Babies deserve to be breastfed and mothers deserve to achieve their breastfeeding goals, but it is everyone else that needs to step up now and make that happen.

Babies deserve better than this. We can do better than this. 

Do you agree?

~Wisdom and Birth

Saturday, June 27, 2015

The Home Birth Story of our Little Izzi Moon

She was born at home, on the bedroom floor of our little Florida apartment, with only her daddy, mommy, and midwife present. 

I have planned to give birth at home for years. Not 'just' a crazy hippie, it was actually my extensive education and years of work in the field of maternity care that had convinced me.

I knew that for my healthy baby and I, the care of a trained midwife at home had far fewer unnecessary interventions, more personal and respectful care, and was as safe as giving birth in the hospital. I wanted an unhindered, natural, and private birth, and I was only going to find that at home. 

And I did. Our little Izzi Moon was born with power and in peace, unhindered and naturally, in the wee hours of the morning, at home, on Wednesday May 6. 

Labor began the day before - a labor fiesta for Cinco de Mayo ;) I was 38.5 weeks along.

I had not-so-secretly hoped (like all pregnant women do) that our little squish would emerge early... though I constantly prepared myself to go 41 weeks, as a seasoned birth worker like myself knew most first-time mothers do.

Tuesday morning was certainly out of my ordinary normal routine. I woke early (completely out of character for me, especially pregnant!), spent some quality time with my husband (my dad reads this, so we'll leave it at that!), and then I even joined him on his morning walk with the dogs... seriously, usually I just lay in bed until a few minutes before I log-in to work.

I vaguely registered some cramping and tightening sensations while working that morning, but I completely disregarded any thoughts of labor, (I had at least two more weeks and could expect a loooong, slow labor... right?) 

The sensations continued and in the early afternoon I began to allow myself to hope that these could be a sign of early labor (just a few more days of these, if I'm lucky!).

It's labor! It is actually labor! We will meet our baby soon!!
A bathroom break around 2pm revealed a large amount of bloody show and for the first time I dared to allow myself a moment of elation... LABOR! I'M REALLY IN LABOR!!!!

The tightening and cramping sensations continued and I could tell they were rhythmic and seemed to be less than 10 minutes apart. I began wrapping up my work, prepping for maternity leave (in case this was actually it!), and around 4pm I sent my husband and midwife (Charlie from Barefoot Birth) a text that I may (dare I hope!?) be in early labor.

I climbed into a warm bath, enjoyed a hot raspberry tea, and began timing... they were about 7-9 minutes apart and lasting 45 seconds. They picked up rather quickly while I relaxed in the tub (yep, OMG!, this is real labor!) and I started needing to pause, close my eyes, and breathe as a surge moved through me.

When my husband arrived home he tried to convince me to go to dinner with friends, as we had planned. Months ago we had agreed that we wouldn't get all excited in early labor, since it can take awhile, so we wanted to continue with our plans... but by 5pm I knew I couldn't get in the car or labor at someone else's house. The contractions were coming closer together (6-7 minutes now) and I needed to relax and get into a rhythm. I needed peace. I needed to breathe.

So he took the dogs to their babysitters (thank you dear friends!) and grabbed a few groceries - I watched half an episode of Outlander while he was gone :)

Labor continued to pick up, stronger and longer contractions coming more frequently. I labored around the apartment, on the birth ball, hands and knees, standing, and even I tried to lay down a few times and rest (like all good birth workers tell mothers to do) but the contractions were too strong in that position and I couldn't cope. I remember feeling like I was going to completely lose it both times I tried to lie down. ...I ended up laboring on my hands and knees for most of the 12 hours. 

Laboring with my doula kitty

My water broke in the bathroom a little after midnight. I was leaning over the counter and vocalizing through contractions (read: hard core moaning!). At this point they were coming about 4 minutes apart and lasting a minute. Within the hour they were getting closer to 3 minutes apart and I told my husband to call our midwife.

Around this time I realized how quickly this was actually going and told my husband to fill the birth pool - I would soon need something greater to help me cope and a tub of hot water sounded amazing!

... and then the #!$* hit the fan...

First, the hose didn't actually reach from the laundry room to the birth room (no big deal, right!?)... so my husband, Chase, moved the pool to the living room... then, the water pipe - yes, the one in the wall that connects to other apartments - BURST!!!

From my position laboring in the bathroom I heard every swear word known to man (and then some new ones) as my husband tried to fill the pool and sop up all the water pouring from the wall - fill for 10 minutes, turn off the water, and then sop up then clean up the lake on the laundry room floor, before turning the water back on ... over and over and over. ...poor husband - A true home birth, y'all!!!

All the while I was laboring louder and louder and begging for my birth pool.

Soon after this fiasco began, our midwife arrived and was able to help Chase boil water to heat the tub as she checked on me, the baby, and prepared for the birth.

Then, (oh yes, there is more!) KNOCK, KNOCK, KNOCK... yep, wtf!?, someone was at the door.

The emergency maintenance man became an honorary member of my birth team when he fixed the pipe (yes, because other apartments had called due to flooding) and gave us water!

RELIEF! My birth pool :) Just in time for transition ...!

Transition - my wonderful husband cooling me down

... and then I was pushing. As I began to feel an urge to push I also felt a sort of sharp contraction pain - after a few of these Charlie checked (my first and only internal exam!) and I had a small cervical lip and after pushing through one or two of the next contractions it was gone.

Pushing was certainly the most intimidating of the labor experience. I handled contractions just fine all the way to the end, but pushing was scary. The thought of a human... a head!... moving through me provoked some new-found anxiety and I needed to be reminded to breathe deeply and rest in between contractions. Charlie had me try different positions to keep me moving and help the baby down - she was having some decels and I needed to be more progressive in my pushing.

Holding tight to my husband's hands, and with my head buried into his shoulder, I pushed out our (SURPRISE!) baby girl at 4:44am on the floor of my birth room/baby room. I pushed for a little less than an hour.

She is here!

Izzi had a bit of trouble taking her first breath and needed some help from Charlie in doing so. Since she was still connected to me through the cord she was able to receive oxygen while working on her transition earth-side.

Once she came around, we cuddled and snuggled and began to foster the strongest and most fulfilling love with our beautiful little girl :) I can't believe we had a girl! 

Our first family photo!

Our little Izzi Moon was born weighing 6lbs 7oz and 20inches long. The day after a full moon!

We didn't actually name her when she was born, though, it took a few days... we had truly been expecting a boy and we hadn't picked a girl's name! Apparently old wives tales are truly just tales! 

Overall my labor was about 12 hours long and I pushed for a little less than an hour. It was challenging and, for awhile, difficult work, but it was totally worth it!

Izzi's newborn exam with Charlie

Some may say that my success birthing at home was "luck"and perhaps in some ways it was, but I also know that my preparation (and I've done lots of it!) was an important factor in my ability to cope and even welcome the contractions. I have certainly done my research and the hard-work paid off!!

I do believe that more women, with knowledge and confidence, and a great birth support team, could deliver at home!

Welcome Earth-side, precious Izzi!!!
~Wisdom and Birth

Monday, November 3, 2014

Announcement! We are Having a BABY!!!

Oh my gosh y'all ...

Enjoy our adorable pregnancy announcements, we are excited to finally share them with you!

Here is our animal pack learning the news :)

And here we are practicing our cloth diapering and looking through my library of pregnancy, birth, and baby books and movies!

Looking forward to sharing more pregnancy and birth news with you!

~Wisdom and Birth

Thursday, October 30, 2014

GERBER SUED over False Health Claims!!!

Well it's about damn time...

Gerber (a product of Nestle), and a number of other infant formula manufacturers, have long claimed health benefits of their formula and infant food products.

Reminds me of this wonderful example :)

False advertising and unethical predatory practices have undermined the hard-work mothers, health professionals, and public health specialists have put into improving breast feeding knowledge and practices.

So I know many proponents for mother-baby health, as well as ethical advertising and honest labeling, will cheer when they hear that the Federal Trade Commission has sued Gerber for making a false claim that their infant formula reduces the risk of developing allergies (haha, I call BS!).


I couldn't find any images online of Gerber being sued... so I made this one! Feel free to use this lovely image when spreading the news article, which can be found here.

Now we'll just have to see if money can buy them out of this one, because we all know they don't have any data to back up their claims!

Here's to honest adverting and labeling!
~Wisdom and Birth

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Conception Contract ~ Joining with my Spirit Baby

I've always wanted to be a mother.

At 17 I was surprised to find out I was pregnant and momentarily devastated... this wasn't how I envisioned becoming a mother. I knew I couldn't be physically and spiritually 'there' for my child and felt lost and confused about what to do. I knew the young man who fathered my child wasn't the right father and I knew that I was not yet ready to be a mother - I was needed to accomplish more for myself and my future children before bringing my children into the world.

With this knowledge I entered into an internal communication with my unborn child. I shared with them my sincere apologies for not being ready at this point in my life. I explained why and gave this child a vision of when I thought they should be born; when their mother would be better prepared to raise them with the respect and environment they deserve. With all the energy in my heart I told them that I wasn't going to bring them forth, yet, but hoped that if they felt it was right for them, that they would wait to be my child in the future.

For 10 years I have held a special bond with this spirit baby... it wasn't until 5 years after my first pregnancy that I learned about others who had communication with spirit babies and that this is a 'real thing'. I had never shared my spirit baby bond with anyone until I discovered that I was not alone.

Then I began a journey into understanding this realm of spirituality. I learned about pre-birth communication. About prenatal and perinatal psychology. Healing wounds from our own birth and how to welcome a spiritual connection with those souls who wish to be born.

Now, 10 years later, I am more than ready to be a mother and I have found the spirit, encased in my husband, that was meant to be their father. We have both prepared ourselves in many ways for parenthood and we have agreed we are ready to nurture, respect, and love a child.

I am one who follows where my heart and gut lead me. Often, I feel as though there is a energy leading me to new discoveries; discoveries which happen to be so perfectly timed that it could be nothing other than divine energetic connection leading me.

We had been TTC (trying to conceive) for just a few weeks and I tried to free myself of the sometimes manic feelings of getting pregnant. I recognized that my physical experiences and highly intellectual reasoning isn't what my spirit baby needs to make a connection ~ rather, they need my spiritual presence and an open and peaceful, loving energy to enfold them into be-ing.

It just so perfectly happened that around the time we were TTC, I came across an article about reincarnation. An amazing story about a boy who remembered so much and shocking details proving he was who he said he was, from a recent and previous life. I was so moved. I felt, again, as though I was being guided by an energy and I willingly followed.

I found a book about reincarnation and read page after page with such excitement. I shared what I was reading with my husband and we had avid discussions about the possibilities. We talked about how we will be open to listening to our child and believing in what they may say. I began to feel open to the idea that my child had a previous existence and will continue to exist after their physical time on this earth.

Then, a few weeks later, I had a dream. In this dream there were no spoken words, but so much was communicated through unspoken means. It was as though the entire conversation happened telepathically.

There was the energy of a child, myself, and what felt like a being greater than both of us. We all felt loved and cherished, bathed in energetic light. There was the feeling of many energies observing us from afar, but all that could be truly seen was the three of us up close.

It felt as though we entered into a contract. That the greater soul was over-seeing the agreement between the spirit child and myself. I remember peace, joy, and a great sense of welcomed responsibility.

I am ready to be your mother, spirit baby. I respect your past and I will guide you and stand by you in the present. I acknowledge that you have experiences to share with me, lessons to teach me, and a path of your own that you must discover. I will be here loving you every step of the way!

Blessed be, Spirit Baby!
~Your humble mother, Wisdom and Birth

*we became pregnant with our cherished baby about two months after this dream :)